As Chicago divorce attorneys, we understand the importance of recognizing that custody disputes in Illinois often hinge on how each parent approaches co-parenting responsibilities. Courts in Illinois do not simply look at who wants more time with the children—they focus on the conduct of the parents, the ability to foster healthy relationships, and whether actions promote the best interests of the child. Under 750 ILCS 5/602.7 of the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act, the court must weigh numerous factors when allocating parental responsibilities and parenting time. Parents who allow emotions to drive poor co-parenting decisions often harm both their children and their custody case.
When a parent makes mistakes such as withholding communication, speaking negatively about the other parent, or refusing to comply with court orders, judges may view this conduct as evidence that the parent is unwilling or unable to place the child’s best interests first. These mistakes can have long-lasting consequences. Our role is to guide parents through the divorce process, helping them avoid errors that can damage their credibility in court and ultimately jeopardize custody outcomes.
One of the most damaging mistakes in co-parenting is interfering with parenting time. Illinois courts treat interference very seriously. Under 750 ILCS 5/602.10, a parent who disregards the court-ordered parenting schedule risks contempt of court and potential modification of the parenting plan. Even when conflicts arise, parents are expected to follow court orders and resolve disputes legally, rather than unilaterally. Judges may view repeated interference as an attempt to alienate the child from the other parent, which directly undermines the best interests of the child standard.
Another common mistake is speaking poorly about the other parent in front of the children. Courts recognize that this behavior harms a child’s emotional well-being and creates unnecessary conflict. Under 750 ILCS 5/602.7(b)(13), judges evaluate each parent’s willingness and ability to encourage a close and continuing relationship between the child and the other parent. If one parent engages in disparagement, it can be used as evidence that the parent is not acting in the child’s best interests.
Custody cases often suffer when parents fail to maintain effective communication. Whether it is ignoring messages, withholding important information about school or health, or refusing to coordinate schedules, these actions show the court a lack of cooperation. Illinois law emphasizes that joint decision-making requires consistent communication. Courts expect parents to be able to exchange information reliably, and failure to do so can result in reduced decision-making authority for the uncooperative parent.
Few actions damage a custody case more than ignoring court orders. Whether it is refusing to pay support, failing to appear for parenting time, or disregarding mediation requirements, noncompliance demonstrates disrespect for the legal process. Under 750 ILCS 5/607.5, repeated violations can lead to penalties, attorney’s fees, or modification of custody. Judges look for parents who respect the court’s authority and demonstrate reliability.
When parents avoid these co-parenting mistakes, they show the court a commitment to stability, cooperation, and the well-being of the child. Every custody case is decided based on the unique facts presented, but the consistent thread is that judges prioritize the child’s best interests. By demonstrating respect, communication, and compliance with the law, parents position themselves for stronger outcomes and healthier long-term relationships with their children.
Under 750 ILCS 5/602.7, courts must evaluate several factors, including the child’s needs, the ability of each parent to encourage a relationship with the other parent, the child’s adjustment to home and community, and the parents’ history of cooperation. These factors guide the judge in determining custody and parenting time.
Yes. Illinois courts expect parents to follow the established parenting plan. Repeated interference can lead to contempt of court, fines, or a reduction in parenting time for the parent responsible. The court may interpret withholding parenting time as harmful to the child’s relationship with the other parent.
Judges often view disparaging remarks as evidence of parental alienation. Courts under 750 ILCS 5/602.7(b)(13) consider whether a parent is fostering or undermining the child’s relationship with the other parent. Persistent negative comments can weaken a parent’s credibility and lead to reduced responsibilities.
Yes. Custody arrangements in Illinois often require ongoing communication about health, education, and activities. A parent who refuses to share important information may lose decision-making authority. Courts value parents who can cooperate, and failure to communicate can damage custody claims.
Ignoring a court order can result in sanctions, contempt findings, or even modification of parenting responsibilities. Under 750 ILCS 5/607.5, penalties may include attorney’s fees or adjustments to custody to ensure compliance. Courts take violations seriously, as they undermine stability for the child.
Yes. While past mistakes can affect credibility, courts also look at efforts to improve. A parent who demonstrates progress, attends parenting classes, or begins complying with orders can show the judge a renewed commitment to the child’s best interests.
Absolutely. Courts in Illinois weigh cooperation heavily. Even if both parents have strong claims, the parent who demonstrates better communication, respect for court orders, and encouragement of the child’s relationship with the other parent often has a stronger case.
At Gordon & Perlut, LLC, we fight to protect parents’ rights while ensuring that children remain the focus of custody cases. We have helped parents across Illinois avoid costly mistakes and build stronger cases for parenting time and responsibilities.
Contact our Chicago parenting time lawyers at our Chicago office at 312-360-0250 or our Skokie office at 847-329-0101 to arrange a free consultation.. We represent clients in Chicago, Skokie, and throughout the state of Illinois.